“No parent thinks, “I wonder what I can do today to undermine my children, subvert their effort, turn them off learning, and limit their achievement.”
Of course not. They think, “I would do anything, give anything, to make my children successful.”
Yet many of the things they do boomerang. Their helpful judgments, their lessons, their motivating technics often send the wrong message.”
Dr. Carol S. Dweck (Mindset)
Too many good parents constantly blame themselves, especially when “accused”, for not being the exemplar parent.
Too many times we are judged for our acts and words by people who are busy wrongly playing the game called “life” – if you want to play it correctly, you should mind your own life and not others.
Please take it easy on yourself, remember we are not perfect, and we should be grateful for that, otherwise we would have no motivation toward personal growth and improvement.
If and when you are accused of not doing the best for your children, or not behaving the way that others think is the best way for them, be comforted by the fact that you are not alone. If such accusations are thrust at you by a legal entity (e.g., Social Services, school, etc.), or if you suspect that you may be under surveillance, it is critical that you immediately contact a lawyer for guidance and assistance.
We are here to protect your rights.